Free Yourself! Stop Worrying About What People Think of You

July 3, 2020.

I have overcome much in my life, but there are still hurdles that I am continuously working through. Along my journey, I have met people who genuinely love me, who want the best for me and who have pushed and inspired me to be the woman, wife and mother I was created to be. There are those who have embraced my weaknesses and rubbed elbows with my flaws. There are those who have looked compassionately on my growing pains, and have offered me their shoulder to lean on.

But then there are others.

There are those who can kill a dream before reality even wakes you and whispers its plans in your ears. There are those who view life from a negative lens. They sit around content with being discontent.  They unconsciously wait for opportunities to throw shade. They judge your motives, twist your words and kill your joy.

Some people will look at your drive and your momentum, and they will hate. They will stand back and judge you at a distance. They will say that you think you are better than everyone else. They will act as if you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, popular enough or even spiritual enough.

But you are enough. Don’t entertain those thoughts and those feelings of rejection. I know, I have battled them before. They come from the pit of the soul of one who truly does not know their value. I was always trying to live up to people’s expectations. I wanted to maintain this perfect image, just as I did as a child, so people wouldn’t see that my life was a mess. It was exhausting. I eventually had to come to terms with the fact that we’re all flawed. We all have issues. We all make mistakes.

God is not like people. He is not impressed with clicks, clubs or frivolous family forums. He is not opinionated or biased. He does not look at outward appearances. He is not temperamental or easily offended. He loves us just the way we are. He accepts us just the way we are. Stop worrying about what people think of you. It’s irrelevant. Free yourself. What matters is who you are in the sight of God.

Stop listening to people who refuse to see any good. Silence their words with love, and with the understanding that everyone will not go where you’re going. Some people are just not meant to run beside you. Stop inviting them. Let them watch from the sidelines. Some people will never have anything encouraging to say. I would hate to be that person, but it’s okay. Some people will look at you and wish that they had your spark, your confidence, your courage and strength, but they will never acknowledge it. And they don’t have to. Let people be who they are. Love them the way that they are. But don’t allow what they think of you to veer you off your path to greatness. You do not need a cheering section. You just need to be free. You are great. You are beautiful. You are gifted. You are loved and accepted just the way you are.

Surround yourself with people who see the best in you; with people who see your life as being half full as opposed to being half empty. Surround yourself with people who see your potential and push you in the direction of your purpose. Separate yourself from those who never have anything good to say. Distance yourself from those who always implicate your actions or stir up drama within their own drama. Look for those who look for you. Celebrate those who celebrate you. Cherish those who honor and love you just the way you are.

Life has a way of settling the score, and God has a way of causing the greatness in you to shine. If people walk out of your life, that is perfectly okay. If people don’t call or don’t want to hang out with you or even talk to you, no problem. If people don’t see your value, or if they think less of you than you think of yourself, it’s not the end of the world. Stop worrying about what people think. What does God think? What does God see? People can be easily offended, selfish, unloving and unkind. And if the truth be told, so can you and I. So don’t dwell on it, just give it to God.

You have prayed. You have forgiven, and you have asked for forgiveness. You have tried. You have begged for lasting friendships. You have hoped to be included. You have worried. You have waited. Now Move On. As the saying goes “Ain’t nobody got time for dat!” Child, free yourself!

Can you relate to anything in this post? Let me know. Leave a comment.